What Men Secretly Want PDF Download. Can your husband turn you on when he’s been acting like an absolute jerk all day, hurting your feelings and making you feel small and worthless? Not unless his behavior changes radically, and even then the chances are rather small. These days most people realize a woman’s brain is the organ of the body that matters most when it comes to turning on the passion in a relationship. It’s much less common to find a person who knows the same thing is true about a man. Yes, men can be interested in sex even when there is emotional tension in the relationship, but I’m talking about the aspects of the relationship that men have to work harder at.